Last month, we discussed common stigmas associated with mental health and psychotherapy. These stigmas may make it difficult for you to share your own struggles with your loved ones. However, with the approaching holidays and increased number of family gatherings, it’s important to be prepared for these challenging conversations.
In today’s blog post, let’s consider five tips for talking to your loved ones about therapy.
1. Plan ahead.
It’s important that every challenging conversation has a sturdy foundation. Think about your mental and emotional health and why you’re struggling. Writing down your main points that you want to share to help you stay on track. Consider your answers to their potential questions too, things like:
- Why do you want to start therapy now?
- Why do you think it’s the right fit for you?
- How will therapy improve your mental health?
- What have you already done to improve your mental health struggles?
Remember: This conversation doesn’t have to be face-to-face. If you think someone may handle the news better in an email or text, that works too. Additionally, if you want someone else to share the update (i.e. your mom to tell your dad), that’s okay. Do what you need to do to take care of yourself.
2. Choose the right time.
There’s no rush when it comes to talking to your loved ones about therapy. Pick a time when they are more likely to be receptive. For instance, don’t bring it up in the middle of preparing Thanksgiving dinner! Instead, think about an opportunity where you can speak to them privately without being rushed. You can also ask them about the best time — something like, “There’s something important that I’d like to discuss with you. When would be a good time for us to talk?”
3. Be honest.
Don’t let your fear of their reaction keep you from being honest and open about your challenges and feelings. Be vulnerable when it comes to your issues and explain how it’s impacting your daily life. If possible, tell them about the gains you’ve already made from therapy so they can better understand your progress and why it’s been such a life-changing step for you.
4. Be patient.
At the same time, leave space for their feelings. They may be completely surprised to hear that you’re struggling with your mental health and have sought professional help. Give them time to process the news. Be patient and understanding as you answer their questions to the best of your ability.
5. Ask for support.
Do you have a close friend or family member who has already seen the benefits of therapy? If so, ask if they’d be willing to talk to your loved ones with you. Someone who can show them the positive impact of psychotherapy may help them better understand your choice to focus on your mental health.
Of course, you can also ask your therapist for guidance! Chances are, you aren’t their first patient to be nervous about telling their loved ones about their mental health journey. They can offer you some simple statements to use or even role play the conversation to help you prepare.
At the Center for Rising Minds, we’d love to help you and your family with your mental health care needs! Please reach out to us today to inquire about our services or join our waitlist.
